Category Archives: Adoptees

More On A Birth Father’s Right To Know…

(This post continues my June 9, 2915 Adoptee’s Ask column, “Does My Birth Father Have The Right To Know My Birth Mother’s Identity?” at The Door Opener Magazine Online.) So what rights does your birth father have? He certainly had … Continue reading

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Are You An Adoptee With A Question?

For several months I’ve been answering adoptee questions at Adoptee’s Ask, a weekly column at the Door Opener Magazine Online.  Adoptee’s Ask is a place for adoptees to ask the kinds of questions they may find difficult to ask, that … Continue reading

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Kung Fu (Adoptee!) Panda 3 Movie Review – Part I

(To read Part I of this post, visit Adoptees Ask at The Door Opener Magazine Online) So we have an adoptee who has been found, versus an adoptee who is searching.  This is a nod to the increase in openness … Continue reading

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Part II – How Could They Have Kept The Fact I Am Adopted From Me? How can I ever trust them, or myself, again?

(To read Part I of this post, visit Adoptees Ask at The Door Opener Magazine Online) They have a “late discovery” of this truth through other means, for example as in your case by overhearing a conversation between relatives. Sometimes … Continue reading

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Part II – “Why Doesn’t She Love Me?”

(To read Part I of this post, visit Adoptees Ask at The Door Opener Magazine Online) To become unstuck we must do the deep inner work of healing the part of ourselves who believes we were bad or that we … Continue reading

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Part II – What You Don’t Know CAN Hurt You: The Beautiful Truth in Father Unknown by filmmaker David Quint

(To read Part I of this review, visit the February 15, 2016 column of Adoptees Ask at The Door Opener Magazine Online.) What we do not or cannot heal we pass on to our children. Without judging Urban’s mother, we … Continue reading

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When Do You Tell Your Secret?

“What would you do if you discovered that the people who loved you most in the world had kept a secret from you your whole life? And you’re asked to keep the secret for them?” Thus begins my review of … Continue reading

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Do You Counsel (or Know) Any Adoptees?

Since approximately 60% of Americans have a triad member (adoptee, adoptive parent, or biological parent) in their family, and if you also consider one’s network of friends, acquaintances, coworkers, and clients (for those of you who are counselors) the answer … Continue reading

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Adoptees’ Greatest Struggles

I was recently was invited by Deanna Doss Shrodes to guest post on her Adoptee Restoration blog, a great resource for adoptees.  She asked me about the kinds of challenges faced by adult adoptees. I hope you find it interesting … Continue reading

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Adult Adoptees: Your Right To Know

On March 2, 2013, I was a guest on The Mary Jones Show, WDRC AM 1360, discussing proposed legislation in Connecticut which would reinstate the right of adult adoptees to access their original birth certificates. Listen here: Photo credit: Carbon … Continue reading

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